Single on Valentine’s Day
I think I missed the memo that being single on Valentine’s Day is a curse. During this time each year, I see articles coaching people on how to cope with being single on Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong I like the idea of celebrating with the one you love. However, being single on Valentine’s Day is no reason to be sad. I feel like it gives a reason to celebrate doing something special for yourself.
If You’re an Ex
A few weeks ago I saw on the news how to celebrate Valentine’s Day if you have an ex. Now there are activities if you have an ex, a zoo in El Paso Texas allows people to use ex’s name for a cockroach which is then fed to a meerkat. Hooters offers a coupon for ten free boneless wings by completing an online quiz and shredding an ex’s picture. All of this negative energy is no for me. Just move on and channel this energy to celebrate YOU!
My thoughts as a single woman and the idea of stressing over Valentine’s Day brings a few questions to mind. What happened to the idea of celebrating love every day? Why is being happy and loved dependent on being in a relationship? Is it possible to love yourself and love your time alone? Do we spend enough time loving ourselves? Are we emotionally and spiritually ready to share with another person? Why have standards and expectations become irrelevant?
One of my favorite movies is Love Jones. After watching the movie multiple times, I realized how much I missed in my 20s and 30s. I know now experiences should have no regrets or settle for less. My takeaway from the movie is the fact a loving relationship requires time, mutual respect, unconditional love, patience, and work. It was also eye-opening to see how much time is wasted when we are not clear with expectations.
My mantra is to CELEBRATE ME every day of the year.
Ways to Treat Yourself for the Month and Beyond
- Book a relaxing massage at a local spa
- Schedule an appointment for a facial
- Plan a treat to a special pedicure and manicure
- Order a dozen of roses for the month and for a real splurge order LeFleur roses (on my 50 wishlist)
- Buy a box of favorite chocolates(Turtles are my favorite)
- Make dinner reservations at a favorite restaurant