After reading an article on becoming a single parent after divorce, I found myself feeling like there is really a silver lining to this transition into a new lifestyle. Now to set the record straight I am in no way endorsing the ease of single parenthood however in life as we know some things are not by CHOICE. As a mom with a pending divorce, I will say in order to handle the new transition you must have a positive perspective on surviving the challenges. The main challenge is definitely the financial component as you operate on one salary which may come with or without child support. I think it requires a whole lot of ingenuity and creativity to reinvent yourself. There are no guarantees in life so my stance is to plan with one salary and count additional income as an extra bonus. For a working mom, it may be difficult to find a part-time job outside of the home. My suggestion is to use the skills you already have and turn those skills into earning potential. From a financial standpoint, this requires being extremely disciplined with how and where you spend money. For the kids this will mean having the VETO power to say NO to the multiple “I wants”. Next I see the luxury of not having to second guess decisions because as the CEO of my space, decisions are non-negotiable. There are opportunities to schedule mom-only getaways to refresh. The flexibility of not having to cook, if the kids want breakfast for dinner that’s what we do, no pressure or obligation! A bowl of cereal on some nights is a great throwback. If we want to stay in all day in our PJs and watch movies, so be it. All of this aside creating a space that is filled with peace and serenity is all that matters deep down. All experiences create an opportunity for learning and enables you to create a lifestyle that is fulfilling. This is the best ride of all, finding what works for YOU! It’s all about creating the life you deserve under your own terms.
Lastly, it is utterly important to create a strong and consistent support network. This should be a circle of friends and family who you can count on to uplift and empower. Just remember not everyone has your best interest at heart. The easy part is removing these people or things from your circle. Peace of Mind is PRICELESS!