I know there is no rule book for parenting however I thought once my son entered the teen years it would render a bit of RELIEF. Well this is soooo far from reality. The hormonal changes make for a very unpleasant living space as I am constantly dealing with mood swings. My biggest gripe is the amount of sleep required as a teen and just no motivation to pitch in and help with chores.
My teen acts as if I know nothing about high school or life for that matter. I have tried to assist with helping him to organize his school assignments, tests, projects but with no luck. The weekly planner went unused for weeks before I realized it was useless. Although it is easy to keep up with my teen’s progress through websites, how do you motivate a teen who uses social media as the HOLY GRAIL?
I feel like I cannot compete with the foolishness of all things witnessed on SOCIAL MEDIA! My teen is obsessed with following the land of DYSFUNCTION. First on my list for the absolute worst offender of brainwashing my teen is MILEY CYRUS! For the life of me I cannot wrap my head around why my teen feels this individual is the guru of LIFE. I feel her life gradually a downward spiral to the darkness of HELL! From where I sit she spouts venomous poison for those who are too immature to see the FOREST FOR THE TREES. Case in point I struggle to understand how my teen can idolize being a fan of someone who encourages drug use and outlandish behavior by any means necessary. Can you say TRAINWRECK? The fact that he makes excuses for the dysfunction of the Kardashian clan is a whole other story. My version of parenting has reached an EPIC moment of SUCKING to the 100th POWER! How do you undo the SOCIAL MEDIA brainwashing of a naive and immature teen who looks at me with disgust because I don’t agree? How do you motivate a teen who lacks ambition to excel?
My teen has this grandiose idea of becoming FAMOUS AND RICH! If you ask him how he has no CLUE whatsoever on a plan. I have learned in the past few days my teen has no idea on his future other being FAMOUS AND RICH! When adults ask he gives the answer he thinks you want to hear with no thought involved. Does he not see he’s only hurting himself? I know the the next four years of his life can make or break his FUTURE.
How did we get here? I feel single mom guilt for entrusting my teen to navigate SOCIAL MEDIA responsibly. From the moment he was given a phone I was against the distraction from his studies before middle school. I was totally naive to the lack of filter on SOCIAL MEDIA when it comes to shaping and molding the impressionable mind of my then tween, turned pre-teen and now TEEN.
How do I effectively parent a confused teen who has created this unrealistic view of YOU TOO CAN HAVE WHAT WE HAVE! How can you want and expect so much for your TEEN? while they are sitting on the sideline and not even wanting to be in the GAME!
I am seriously contemplating applying to a military academy to institute a sense of discipline and structure in his out of sync world. In all seriousness, I will take any and all FREE advice. I need a game plan sooner than later. How do you keep your teen(s) focused? and on the right track?