Single motherhood is a challenging journey that requires perseverance and commitment. Every year on Father’s Day I notice a surge of posts on women celebrating Father’s Day. The fact that Hallmark found it necessary to add a card to its Mahogany line is even more ridiculous. We are in some way to celebrate a woman being a mother on Father’s Day because there is no way, in my opinion, you can hold down both roles. I believe only a mother can teach her children how to love and nurture which is entirely different than what a father teaches. Before I became a mother, I lived with both parents and I remember my father’s role in our home. Unfortunately, my father passed away when I was 19. The one thing I know I missed out on is having my father’s perspective on life and all the lessons that go along with challenges. Fathers who are engaged with their children shed a different light on the many facets involved with living.
As a divorced mom of two, becoming a single parent is by circumstance, not by choice. Motherhood encompasses so many levels and does not warrant acknowledgment other than on the third Sunday in May. For me, Mother’s Day feels like another day to some degree in terms of what is expected and required. I feel like I am always on the clock every day, week, month and year. There are so many hats to wear no matter the season. It is my one job that is without breaks, sick time, and vacation . Please do not feel compelled to acknowledge me on a day that was never meant for me. The blessing of giving birth is the role I was destined to have and all the responsibility that comes along with the role. This is not to negate the role of a father but I am good staying in my lane.
The blessing of being a mother is one of intent and purpose and I am fine in that seat.