Reconciliation is not an option for all divorces. After a conversation with an unnamed individual, I was caught off guard when she said she was hoping for a reconciliation. Although this may apply for some couples it was not an option for me. This conversation really made me think about the mindset of certain people especially those who grow up with dysfunctional family dynamics. I am convinced that anyone who would encourage reconciling to go back to a dysfunctional relationship is not concerned about my well-being. It is so easy to live a facade for the purpose of trying to look happy on the outside while you’re crumbling physically and emotionally. I am so glad I had the wherewithal to walk away from a dysfunctional relationship with no regrets.
It is easy for some to live according to the rules of others and not stay true to themselves. I am so glad I had the wherewithal to walk away from a dysfunctional marriage. Her comments were unnerving in light of the fact infidelity impacts so many marriages. It feels like it is a cycle of unacceptable behavior in some families and it is continuously brushed under the rug.
I have learned it is far more important to stay true to my values and choose the life I deserve. This is why is it important for me to surround myself with a village who wants the best for me. In the process, it means not allowing people who do not have my best interest at heart in my life. It feels great to embrace positivity and those who want the very best for me.