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My Inspiration

Michelle Obama – My Forever First Lady, New Book “Becoming”

Jan 3, 2019

 Michelle Obama’s Interview

Michelle Obama’s interview on 20/20 with Robin Roberts reflected on how their family made history ten years ago.   Also, how this history is captured in her new book, Becoming.   President Obama became the 44th president it was an overwhelming sense of pride to witness a Black man going to the White House.  The images of him, his wife, and their two children walking across the stage were surreal.   My first thought was if only my dad were alive to witness this piece of history.

Michelle Obama, Becoming

Michelle Obama has become such a model of dignity and grace in her eight years as the first lady.  Tonight, I viewed her 20/20 interview with Robin Roberts.  The interview covered her new book, Becoming, which I pre-ordered a few months ago. 

Her Life

The best part of the interview was her honesty on topics that really touch women in every facet of their life.  She was honest about having a miscarriage and how she felt so alone.  It raised a good point on why this is not a conversation that we share universally.  My second pregnancy ended in miscarriage and fortunately for me, another friend had experienced a miscarriage months before so we were support for one another.  

Excerpts from Becoming

Robin was surprised to see in the book her talk about the lust for her husband.  Michelle was being  100% honest about how she felt about her husband.   Whenever they were together during those eight years in the White House, it was obvious they share a deep love and mutual respect for one another.    Michelle knew after they shared their first kiss he was the one.  She was very transparent that their “phenomenal marriage” is not without work and the help of marriage counseling.   I love the fact Michelle made it known on camera that marriage takes work.

On her visit to a dance class at her high school.  She talked about a school counselor telling her she was not Princeton material.  Fortunately, she wanted to prove the counselor wrong.  This conversation resonated with me because I was told by a school counselor to consider a different major for college.   I decided to do it anyway.  Michelle’s message to the girls was not to allow anyone to stop you from pursuing your dreams.   It was interesting to see Michelle wrestle with questioning whether she was good enough.  

Becoming My Thoughts so Far

My holiday break allowed me to catch up on reading Becoming. I am blown away with how familiar this book feels to my childhood, teen years, college years and beyond. I love Michelle’s transparency on every facet of her life. It is like I dove back into my childhood growing up in a working-class neighborhood of West Philly, growing up with relatives playing Pinochle, the angst of attending a predominately white university, and the challenges of balancing many hats as a woman. Her sense of family played a major role in her life choices. While I am still finishing the book, it is refreshing to read how career choices evolve over time. It is fine to make changes that are a better fit at various stages of life. I especially love reading about the relationship between Michelle and Barack. The progression of their loving relationship is authentic. I cannot to wait to finish so I can give my thoughts on the full content and what I can share with my tween.

Filed Under: My Inspiration, Parenting Tagged With: #inspiration, becoming, michelleobama

Hello May: New Month, What I Love?

May 2, 2016

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The month of May: What I Love?

  1. Mother’s Day
  2. Finally Spring
  3. Flowers Blooming
  4. Lovely Weather
  5. Countdown to Summer

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: May, new month

Reunion: West Catholic Girls High School 29th Class Reunion

Apr 4, 2016

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It is unbelievable how quickly 29 years passed.  It feels like it was just yesterday we were preparing for our graduation ceremony at Villanova Univesity.   In lieu of waiting until for our officially 29 years since graduating in June, we planned a reunion with a girls night out at Painting with a Twist.   Everyone had to bring a dish and their favorite bottle.

This was my first time at Painting with a Twist and I assume having wine definitely alters or improves your artistic ability.    It was great to reconnect and it felt like high school on FAST FORWARD.    The only difference is our conversation has evolved to real life marriage, children, and parenting.    It was definitely a sanity check for me as I am challenged with raising a teen.    No matter how many years were missing we connected like it was yesterday.

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What I realized after 29 years is that we all share a common thread – being MOTHERS.  It was so much fun to connect on the challenges of raising children.  I realized as mothers we all have similar experiences in parenting.   In 1987, our conversation was filled with plans for our futures now as we fast forward to 2016 our lives have evolved over so many chapters.   I believe going to all girls high school created lasting friendships.   When we meet after some many years it is easy to pick up where we are today.   I’m looking forward to celebrating our 30th REUNION.

We are now committed to a meetup every quarter.  See you in June!!

 

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Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: high school, moms, reunion, west catholic gilrs

Women- Embracing Me: Women’s History Month

Mar 21, 2016

 

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Women’s History Month

Women’s History Month is a celebration of achievement.   In my thirties, I remember hearing life starts at 40.     When I turned  40 I spent a few relaxing days in Miami, kid-free and spouse-free.   Shortly after turning 40 I was separated and moving forward with my divorce.

I will say turning 40 gives you a more a renewed sense of SELF!   There is an overwhelming feeling of power to define who you are and what you want on your TERMS.

Yes,  aging happens and guess what it can be the best JOURNEY!   The most IMPORTANT thing  I can do is to take care of my TEMPLE!  I always joke that I will work out well into my 80s.    The physical and mental boost you received from making FITNESS a part of your daily regimen is IMMEASURABLE.   Aging is a fact of life but how we choose to EMBRACE it is what MATTERS the MOST!

As I reflect on Women’s History Month, and my thoughts on being a woman I shift to my  9 yo DAUGHTER.      My daughter is my biggest critic and/or fan.   She is the one who gives me a thumbs up or thumbs down on everything outfits, makeup, hair, clothing, body, etc. The list goes on and on and on!  It is like living with my own personal FASHION POLICE, 24/7!   My daughter is the one who points out my disrespectful gray hair and that mommy pouch that never seems to completely disappear.   You know what?   I take it in stride but there are days when I want to seal her LIPS with a key!

One day my daughter she said, ” mom I think you’re the oldest mom out of my classmates”.   In my mind, I was thinking here we go again.   She literally acts like I’m ready for an assisted living facility.    I gave her my usual very, very extended SIDE EYE!   Then she follows up with “mom you’re really slimming down from working out”   In my mind I’m doing two snaps in the AIR and walking my imaginary runway! 

Now at the tender age of 46, I feel age is truly a number.   Your mental outlook is what dictates the overall aging process!     I remember my daughter pointing out my stretch marks and my response was sharply followed up with YES,  YOU and your Brother DID THIS!

While in the back of my mind the( SNARKY SECTION) I am thinking how this child should get married and have four sets of stretch marks!!!!!!  Only so she can appreciate!     I DIGRESS.

As a woman, I have learned to appreciate my STRETCH MARKS as they are symbolic of being a GIVER OF LIFE!  Why be hard on me about something that is a part of NATURE?      One lesson my daughter has taught me is to EMBRACE every inch of what makes ME!   BEAUTY in every inch!

I feel as women we are way too hard on ourselves.   When I told a colleague I was planning to wear a two piece at the beach, her comment was “don’t you have stretch marks?” and my response was “yes,  and?”   In celebration of all the beauty, we possess even when we are not feeling it, ponder on these thoughts!

WHY I  NO LONGER CARE ABOUT STRETCH MARKS?

  1. I am a mom who gave birth to two healthy children who continue to STRETCH my mental capacity beyond measure.   While this is 110% TRUE, I need to still make it a ritual to take time for ME! by keeping my mind and body intact.
  2.  After 45, I no longer sweat the small stuff!    No,  seriously in the big scheme of things.  Is this what people will remember? Absolutely not.   I hope to inspire those around me and surround myself with those who inspire me!
  3. The EXTERIOR of the TEMPLE may fade however taking care of the INTERIOR has phenomenal BENEFITS that can’t be measured or compared!
  4. Being comfortable in your own SKIN is the only way to EMBRACE who you are!
  5. LOVING me really means LOVING every inch of WHO I AM! and that includes my STRETCH MARKS! 

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #embraceme, #womenshistorymonth, inspired

Job – My Leadership Role?

Mar 11, 2016

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A new job is challenging however every experience prepares you for the next chapter.

After  working for a  non-profit organization for 12 months and 14 days, I realized  how much I learned about myself.    Job loss can be very challenging but I am using this time to REFOCUS and PRIORITIZE!!!   Whew I feel this time is necessary to determine what is most important for me and my kids.    I thought my new role required me to be fully committed  to make a difference.    As I reflect on the year,  it dawned on me how much the weight of bringing my laptop home every night to work after dinner, in the wee hours of the night, and sometimes on my weekend was exhausting .    I think it is important to never lose defining your dreams as you work on fulfilling someone else’s.    When you move on it brings OPPORTUNITY to shape the next move and hopefully INSPIRE ME to fulfill my DREAMS at the same time!

What I Learned……

  1. Lead by example!
  2. Respect is reciprocal!
  3. Integrity means everything!
  4. Do not compromise values and beliefs!
  5. Be passionate about what you do!
  6. Strive to make a difference!
  7. Every experience provides valuable lessons, learn from each and every one!
  8. Never burn your bridges!
  9. Honor the work that came before you!
  10. WORK TO LIVE NOT LIVE TO WORK!!!!!!

I found this PHENOMENAL video,  a great summary on work/life balance!!!

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #inspire, #life, balance, job, work

Social Media- New Blog Design, CocoaMommy

Mar 7, 2016

SeventhBlogiversary

 

Social Media, My 7th Blogiversary

Where has my social media time gone?  When I started blogging in 2009, I had no idea  social media was going to boom into a platform with millions of users.     My first blogging platform was Blogger and then I evolved to WordPress.   It amazes me each day on how much I have learned over the course of 7 years.

Life happens each year and I will admit there were multiple times when I took extended breaks.  Also thought about stopping for good.   It is interesting to hear people who don’t quite understand social media offer advice or their unsolicited thoughts on social media.    Yes, people may ask “why do you do this?”, “how much are you making ?” and “no one wants to read about that.  you need to write on ………”   As I celebrate my 7th year of blogging I thought it was time for a redesign

For the new year, I wrote down a list of short term and long term goals.    One goal was a new blog design especially when I realized my last design was in 2012.   After 4 years with the same design,  a new design was long overdue.   I view this as a NEW LOOK, NEW INSPIRATION to continue sharing my story.

I am fortunate to have a positive network of people who continue to keep me encouraged and motivated to share my story.    Just when I think no one is reading  I see two comments this week that said:   “I love your blog”.     I was overwhelmed, to say the least and feeling like this put everything into perspective for me moving forward.

Big ShoutOut to Jen at JenOni for her graphic design skills and patience with getting the new design finished in March.

 

Recap: Why I Started Blogging? 

  1. While I was laid off  I started scouring the internet for work from home opportunities, this is when I discovered an entire community of BLOGGERS at Mom Bloggers Club.  This is how I met Jen Lawrence at JenOni.   Our last meet up was at BlogHer15 in July.  We initially met( IRL) 6 years ago at a blogging event in PA.   Twitter was my first introduction to a social media platform and the rest, as they say, is HISTORY!
  2. It is a form of THERAPY! As a parent and single mom, I quickly realized I was not alone with my challenges and experiences.
  3. I discovered it was a way to connect with MOMS around the globe.
  4. It is a PHENOMENAL platform to share my ideas, thoughts, experiences and challenges.
  5. I OWN MY CREATIVITY!

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #blogiversary, #jenoni, #newyear, blogging

The Loss of My Dad – Unconditional Love

Feb 2, 2016

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My dad’s love.   This post is filed under “my inspiration” however not sure how to be INSPIRED on this topic.My dad passed away 28 years ago and his birthday is  January 1st.   Every new year is a great beginning and a reminder of his birthday with the void it has left. My dad passed away as I was starting my second year of college and he was over the moon proud. I was the first of his six children to go to college. For him, education was a big deal. Although he was not a college graduate, he believed in the benefits of education or pursuing a trade. He worked hard and was highly skilled in a lot of areas. I give him credit for my interest in science.

While I was de-cluttering a room at my mom’s house I found my high school graduation cards. I will always treasure this card from my dad, wow to seen his signature after 28 years. I remember sitting on the stage at my high school graduation and looking over at my family and winking at my dad. It feels like it was yesterday. The best part of the day is having a limo transport us to and from the graduation ceremony. My dad tried to provide anything for his “SMOOCH”. I remembered he drove miles to get my Barbie RV so I would have in time for Christmas.

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He always wanted me to go to college as I was thinking “come on dad what else would I do” Unfortunately my dad passed away during the 1st semester of my sophomore year. I can remember the pride on my dad’s face when I made the dean’s list. It was tough returning to school but I pride my dad felt made it worth the effort.

When I look back over my life I often wonder if he is my guardian angel. Hopefully, he is and smiling down on his busy grandchildren who constantly throw his “smooch” for a loop. Just the other day my baby bro and I were talking about how each of us stands just like our dad. It was funny that we both noticed.

In 2016, I am now 46 years old and high school was almost 29 years ago. I hear people say losing someone gets better over time and I will be the first one to say this is untrue. When I think of the missed conversations, graduating from college, buying my first car, my first job, becoming a mother, etc there is no way to replace a dad’s perspective. A dad is the first man in your life who loves, protects and provides a genuine perspective to make critical decisions. I envy women who have their dads during their adult years. There is no price you can put on reaching out to your dad for advice or having him make you laugh. I know having his advice would have prevented me from making some reckless decisions.

Shortly after New Years Day stores are adorned with Valentines Day cards, gifts, and decorations. If you’re single it may be a bittersweet day. What should you do? Do you spend it alone? or with single friends? Honestly, I like the idea of having a special day to acknowledgement those you love. I do not believe this is the only day to show love or give love. Unconditional love is a given on every day of the calendar. While I enjoy dinner out the only date I could wish for on Valentine’s Day is with my dad.

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My Valentine’s Wish    

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #inspiration, #loss, #unconditionallove, #valentinesday

Dreams: A Letter to My Younger Self

Jan 8, 2016

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DREAMS

Dear Younger Self,

What were my dreams?   Wow, where should I start? Plan wisely! The dreams of becoming a pediatrician can be fulfilled with the right plan and mentors. When you look in the mirror smile and know that your intelligence and beauty exist both inside and outside.  As I was told the only person who can stop YOU from fulfilling your dreams is the person looking back in the mirror. You will learn that confidence is built over time and experience.

As you matriculate through grade school, high school, and college you will see how the dynamics of family and friendship change tremendously.  I would call these the years of maturation, responsibility and ultimately adulthood.  There is so much to weather through on the road to adulthood joy, pain, love, dislike (hate is a strong word) births and death.  Although a loss is hard to deal with as you are becoming an adulthood, remember some experiences help to make you stronger.  The friends you meet and have along the way may not last a lifetime however real friendships last an eternity.  Growth has so much value to build who you are becoming as an adult. Educate yourself to ensure a brighter future and opportunities.  Set goals no matter how big or small, have a vision that becomes reality.

In order to realize your dreams, always surround yourself with people who are supportive and moving in the same direction of success. Eliminate negative people, places and things as this will only halt your growth.

Always have the ability to challenge what you believe.  The phrase “I can’t” is unacceptable if it closes doors to your dreams. Each year try something new, never have regrets.  The words” I can’t” should never be a part of your vocabulary. Fear has no place in a fulfilled life, travel and see the world to gain perspective on other people, places, and cultures.  When it is time to choose a mate look for the values and abilities you have achieved for yourself.  I know the old adage is opposites attract but commonality makes a huge difference in a loving long term relationship.  The way to your heart should be someone who offers you unconditional love, support, respect, appreciates every facet of who you are even with your imperfections, compliments your growth, and uplifts your spirit. You, in turn, should reciprocate the same qualities you hope to receive from another.

Life is filled with so many experiences so make the most of every hour, second, day, month and year you are blessed to receive.  First and foremost, continue to love who you see in the mirror!

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #adulthood, #dreams, #growth, #mentors, #unconditionallove

My Inspiration: New Year Word of 2016

Jan 4, 2016

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In every new year, I notice there is a rush to create a laundry list of resolutions.   I love the statement, what do I resolve to do differently?  I firmly believe my life is headed on the right path however there things I can improve for myself to create a better space mentally and physically.   After reading this great article at Inc.com,  it put a lot in perspective for my new year.    Here’s the article One Word Can Change Your Life in 2016: Here’s How

My word for 2016 is DETERMINED.  I am DETERMINED to live better mentally and physically.

What My Word for 2016 means?

  1. Schedule ME time monthly to include any and all things that mean PAMPER 
  2. Take time to DECOMPRESS in the morning and evening
  3. Make FITNESS and HEALTHY EATING a part of my lifestyle not just an option
  4. UNPLUG from distractions on a daily basis
  5. Get MORE SLEEP each night
  6. SHOWER myself with the things I LOVE
  7. CREATE my own business
  8. REDUCE my debt
  9. SAVE and INCREASE  RETIREMENT SAVINGS
  10. MAKE travel a PRIORITY
  11. READ at least 4 books this year

 

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #newyear, #wordof2016

2015: What Did I Learn?

Dec 31, 2015

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I thought 2014 was a whirlwind of events but 2015 was truly a reality check.    I started 2015 in my new job of 8 months.   In May, my new job came to an end.  It was eye-opening and a welcome relief at the same time.   I see now it was an unexpected break to work on me.    I spent the summer totally re-evaluating my short-term and long-term plans.    I interviewed and returned to one of my previous employers.

All EXPERIENCES whether good, bad or indifferent offer such valuable LESSONS and opportunity for GROWTH.

What I Learned in 2015?

  1. NEVER burn your BRIDGES.
  2. Say YES if it works for me.
  3. NEVER be too PROUD to start over.
  4. Stay HUMBLE.
  5. Stop wasting time CHASING anything that offers no VALUE in my LIFE.
  6. Spend quality time working on ME.
  7. The importance of creating a VISION BOARD.
  8. NEVER sacrifice what you love
  9. If you’re knocked down just get back up STRONGER and FOCUSED.
  10. I love the POWER of NO.

I am looking forward to my JOURNEY in 2016!!!!!!

 

Filed Under: My Inspiration Tagged With: #lifelessons, #realtalk

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