Transparency of Marriage in Their Own Words
This is part 1 and part 2. If you are not watching Red Table Talk, do not miss the next episode. I enjoyed Part 1 and had to tune in for Part 2.
Part 1 shows there are twists and turns to every relationship. The irony of Will wanting to meet Jada but seeing his first wife and marrying her instead. The start of Will and Jada’s relationship was after his divorce. I noticed Jada gave up her life in Baltimore to be in this relationship. Also, Jada assumed the role of a stepmother without any preparation. When Jada found out she was pregnant, a wedding was planned and she was not 100% on board with the idea. Their new lives moved very quickly to living as husband and wife with a child. There was no time in between to exhale. and it was interesting that Will reached out to Jada after his divorce papers were signed. After my divorce, I realized taking time for myself was overlooked.
As a divorcee, I realized it took me almost 20 years to know and understand what I need. This episode covers a few topics that resonated with me on so many levels. It was clear to me from this red table talk conversation their decisions were relevant to their lives and what is necessary for their family. Marriage is not a one size fits all. The one thing that really sticks is the fact that marriage is truly a partnership which means a mutual partnership that means each person has a right to have their needs met. Also, in a partnership, it is necessary to communicate with your partner on everything with no secrets or judgments.
I learned so much after watching part 1 and part 2 and wanted to share my thought. What makes a marriage work? There is no formula or secret recipe. I feel entering the institution with the right intentions is critical and not being in love with the idea of marriage. I think having relevant examples helps to frame an understanding of what is expected. If only I could rewind the clock and spend enough time living life. The most important lesson for me is to bring your authentic self and do not bring an imposter. Also, the ability to give a partner the space to enjoy what they are passionate about even if the interest is not shared No two marriages are the same because what works in one home may not apply in someone else’s home.
I know to find someone who encourages me to be my best will be a blessing. Did you miss when they said they talk about everything? A partner to share the good, the bad and the ugly are golden. I believe a relationship should serve to make one another better not to judge or criticize. The ability to accept that as partners we are imperfectly perfect is an added bonus. Last but not least, mutual respect for one another is priceless.