Post-Divorce and What I Learned from Advice
This summer brought some downtime and I was able to get away for four days alone. It was my first solo vacation in eight years. This eve sounds out of order and not right. In the llast laeight years, the transition from marriage to separated and finally divorced was a rollercoaster. There were a lot of decisions to make and carving out time to find balance. Some decisions were not without harsh consequences and making time to reset. I am looking forward to more time to exhale.
This life transition comes with a lot of advice, suggestions, and self-proclaimed wisdom. It has taken all of this time for me to realize I am the only person living my life. I am the one who knows my past, present, and future which means I need to do what makes sense for me. While some advice may come with good intention only I know what works for my sanity. There is no handbook for life and disappointments are along the way. I am at a point of advice overload and firmly need to move forward on my own terms. While some may not agree with my decisions, I no longer care or feel I need to accomodate the suggestions of others. It is fine to sschedule time to decompress and set priorities that make sense for me. The only person I need to answer to at the end of the day is myself. I am not saying offering support is not welcome but know the ability to agree to disagree is fine too. On some days, offering ways to lessen the load is needed more than inundating me with advice. Nothing is perfect and there are lessons to be learned along this path for all.