Open Letter to My Kids on Divorce and Life Moving Forward
I felt compelled to write an open letter to my kids on divorce. During my break, I watched Being, Jasmine Guy on Centric. It hit home when she talked about going through her divorce and having to explain the situation to her then 8-year-old daughter. Jasmine moved to another state, which meant displacing her child. Her story struck a nerve with me because it was a decision I agonized over during this time. As Jasmine said(referring to divorce), “Our story is their story”. Her daughter talked about leaving her friends and not making it easy for her mother.
As a mother, it was difficult for me to disrupt their comfort zone. My son was nine when I decided to move and my daughter was three years old. It is difficult to explain adult decisions to kids, however, I hope one day they will understand the “why” behind my decisions.
I need you to know my decisions are in your best interest. As a mother, I always want the best for both of you even if this means uprooting to some extent. Although, parenting is without a handbook I feel it is my duty to always provide an environment that is functional versus dysfunctional. I want to be honest and not make empty promises. The reality of divorce is not always a silver lining. One lesson I learned is not to invite less than what I deserve into our lives. From this lesson, I hope you will always set high standards for yourselves and never settle for less. You deserve the best in everything you do.