I guess as a divorced individual the key to navigating this new life is figuring out ME! One thing I have discovered is the fact that through compromise and settling I neglected to carve out a life that was conducive to my well-being. I never stopped to smell the proverbial roses, what do I like, dislike, want and why? When I stopped to smell the roses I created my “love of list”. I am a lover of coffee, wine, art, theater, fitness, food, adventure, spontaneity, romance, pampering, generosity, consideration, thoughtfulness, speaking my mind and conversation. A day of self-reflection truly has me believing finding that level of compatibility is not worth any compromising.
I am certain my teen means well however it would take a mountain to move for me to feel up to the challenge of including another person in my life. The time and energy to discover whether another person has the capacity to include you in their space is exhausting. It is a smack in the face of how long you can devote your time and energy only to realize another person is not on the same page. I am beyond trying to dissect what I can to do or how much I can do for another person!!! I am who I am take it or leave it. What I love will not be compromised for the sake of a relationship with another person who is not on the same page.
My teen is sweet for wanting me to have another spouse. Hopefully he will realize that my life is filled as is and that it will take an extraordinary man to love me and my two kids. There are days when I feel like it is not that important. I joke and always say keep hope alive.
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I say if only I knew then what I know now. This was an interesting read.