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Inquiring minds want to know, really what do we discuss behind the doors of hair salons? All I know is one Friday night at the hair salon I was never expecting my Friday night entertainment.
The first round of conversations started with our discussion of various lifestyles(sorry I cannot divulge beyond) but it did lead to us giving explanations on our admiration for the beauty we admire in other women. Who knew that we talk so freely about the anatomy of women we think are attractive without judgement. It surprised me because if you look at the reality shows featuring African American women, you would never believe there was anything positive discussed about one another behind closed doors.
Then I think we moved onto intimacy with our significant others. It was baffling to know that there are limits on the level of intimacy. Is it possible to share intimacy without kissing? I know my answer. Does anyone have an issue with kissing(type of kissing), sharing drinks, or I assume eating from the same spoon/fork as your partner? Who knew? This discussion blew me away! Another discussion was women’s health and the fact as we get older the inconvenient physical changes to our bodies. I find it alarming that each time I turn on the tv there is a new commercial for a new an incontinent product. Am I in denial or just wishing Depend and Poise would go away forever? Sometimes I wonder if talking to an ob/gyn hinders more than helps. It seems doctors are always ready to remedy everything with a quick procedure of some kind. I think the overall consensus in the salon was to do whatever makes you happy and who cares what your partner may think. One response was most partners are not concerned with the things were worry about. Most partners are only concerned with functionality and great hygiene of our girly parts. Enough said I guess the conclusion from this part of the conversation is Enjoy, Enjoy and stop stressing over the small stuff!
Next up was the topic of marriages and how adamant some women are about getting their share of what was built in the marriage. I guess I am partly on board with understanding the why. I guess when it is over I am more the type that would prefer to count my losses and walk away! However I guess the rationale is if you help build an empire no other woman will have an ounce of it. Hey, whatever works for your sanity!
I think as mothers the most important thing we hold tight to the heart is providing the best for our children. It is interesting when the topic of child support comes up. I think this sends blood pressures quite high and some women will do whatever they need to do by any means necessary.
Every third Friday is filled with an evening of comedy, drama, unadulterated fun and gut busting laughter. It is my end of the week of relief, the only thing missing is a glass of wine. I may suggest this going forward or suggest Friday night BYOB!